I know this will come up. I will get people calling me misogynist and woman hater. Not all women are like that. You don’t understand feminism. So this is what I believe.
There are two camps of feminism. There are equality feminists. The basic concept of equality feminists is that men and women are different, but these differences are not justification for unequal opportunities. Equality feminists are fighting for equal opportunities. The second camp are gender feminists. This camp argues that men and women are the same. Any difference in outcome is therefor a result of discrimination. Gender feminists argue for equality of outcomes.
While I don’t agree with either camp, the overwhelming majority i don’t have a big problem with. Equality feminists are lightly misguided with very poor word choices. Equality feminists are just doing a poor job of arguing about very real problems. Gender feminists are the problem with feminism. Men and women are very different. There are very real physical, mental and emotional differences between men and women. These differences do affect outcomes. Fighting for equality of outcome is harmful to both men and women. Within the camp of gender feminists there are the hate filled bigots, advocating for truly horrible things. Murder all male babies. This is a small group within a small group. This group is the activists. This tiny minority is doing most of the advocating for women. This group is formulating the language used. This group is forming the legislation. This group of hate filled bigots are becoming the face of feminism.
It is not “feminism” that is bad, but gender feminism. It’s not feminism or even gender feminism that is hateful. It is a small minority of a small minority that are hateful. These are the women I oppose. I know these women don’t speak for you. Don’t let the claim they do, and don’t use the language they have put forward to try and support your positions.
My position is not that there should be equality between men and women. This is a silly position. It’s about like advocating for dog/tree equality. It just does not make sence. My position is simple. I want to make these equations true.
Women’s Rights = Women’s responsibilities/obligations
Men’s Rights = Men’s responsibilities/obligations
This is how we will grow a just society. Not by homogenizing the population, but by insuring that no group has rights that are not limited by obligations, and no obligations that are not supported by rights.
I know of many ways this equation is not balanced for women. This equation has been being unbalanced since the very first actions of feminism. The right to vote is balanced by the obligation to serve in a military capacity. Men pay for the right to vote with blood and death. Women do not. The right to vote also comes with an obligation to follow the rules that are voted on. Women have far lower conviction rates and sentences for the same crime. Women do not have the same obligations that men do. There are a multitude of other examples, but you get the point.
There are ways that the men’s rights equation is unbalanced as well. Men are obligated to finance children whom they are little more than sperm donners for, but have almost no rights when it comes to child care, visitations, or even the choice to be a parent. This is very unbalanced.
I know that this is not a complete list. I do not doubt that there are responsibility that women bear not balanced by rights. I know that there are rights that men have that are not balanced by responsibilities. I am just as blind to my privilege as you are to yours. If you can give clear examples and thought out explanations I would be happy to include them. Note: “Male privileged” is not an example of unbalanced rights and responsibilities, but the assertion that there are unbalanced rights and responsibilities.