David Futrelle has left another steaming pile on his blog. This one is about a post on The Spearhead. I personally don’t have time for The Spearhead, it’s the MRA equivalent of Jezebel. Most of what gets posted is nonsense. Sometimes, rarely, they post something worth while. David found one such post and then decided to mindlessly attack rather than actually both to actually listen and hear what was being said.
http://www.the-spearhead.com/2014/07/21/the-disposability-paradox/
So what did The Spearhead say that was so horribly anti-woman, you know the stuff that feminist actually for equality would agree with?
“Independence” is great
Well times are hard. Harder than when 2nd wave feminism was around. We are still recovering from the worst economic disaster since the great depression (and by some accounts worse than the great depression) Women need to rely on the men in their lives much more than their mothers did. The myth of every woman being an island into and of herself is crumbling. You can’t do it on your own. “Independence” isn’t all it’s cracked up to be. The “A woman needs a man like a fish needs a bicycle” attitude that is in fact very feminist just simply doesn’t work very well today.
Really women should have relationships with M E N…..should be connected to and interdependent on M E N. The human species thrives when men and women work TOGETHER. Nothing could be more hateful than this, well according to feminists like Manboobz (David Futrelle) it is. What message could be less feminist that “Strong relationships between equals”
In the face of dramatic levels of equality in the workplace, with wives and 
girlfriends earning more than the husbands and boyfriends what does The Spearhead advocate? They are a bit long winded in saying that men make great homemakers. That men are and should be allowed to break out of outdated gender roles. This is just the most anti-feminist thing ever. What feminist has ever advocated for getting rid of outdated and regressive gender roles.
So what other horribly evil and sexist things are said in the post by Spearhead? Well when times are tough, there are less resources to go around. This is kind of the definition of tough times. A good way to make the most out of resources is sharing burdens like rent and the power bill with other people. Half the population is men, so there is a very large pool of men out there, many of whom are also struggling and would enjoy sharing the burden in a relationship with an equal. This is so very anti-feminist that David should have devoted the entire post just to how horribly sexist and hateful treating women as equals is.
Warren Farrel wrote a book Women Can’t hear What Men don’t Say. Well Men are starting to say, and women and feminists need to learn how to listen.
Have you read: “The End of Men” by Hanna Rosin in The Atlantic? I agree with you that men being out of work, or not being included as productive members of society (homemakers) is a bad thing for everyone. This is not to say that women have to get married or shack up if they prefer to live alone. I think being a single parent is one of the hardest things a person can do/go through. I appreciate having a husband for so many reasons: companionship, sharing of chores, sharing of financial burdens, ect… I think making social construct mandatory is problematic in a liberal (full of freedom), democratic society. Men can start by replacing the toilet paper. 😉
I think you missed the point. I was making fun of Futrell and Feminism. I have read “The End of Men” and it’s the most hateful sexist bigotry written since the S.C.U.M. Manifesto (Society for Cutting Up Men)
Men becoming home makers is a good thing. Men abdicating the positions of provider and protector and high demand leadership is a good thing.
Being a parent and home making are very important very real very significant and productive roles in society. We need more men in these very important but traditionally female roles.
To say that men raising children and cooking dinner are not being productive is every bit as much hateful sexist bigotry as saying women that work full time are unfit to be parents and abandoning their responsibilities.
You completely misread me and the article. I did not say that being a homemaker was a bad thing. I actually said said that being a homemaker is being a “productive member of society.” Get your facts straight.
In your comment above it really looks like your calling homemaking unproductive and similar too being unemployed. If this was not your intent, you did a poor job of communicating what you actually meant.