I stumbled upon this blog the other day.  It’s been rattling around in my mind.  This is for the women.  If you want to know what I think “Doing it right” is, read this blog.

http://jezebel.com/5984682/get-rejected-more-youre-not-doing-it-enough

This is a woman giving really good advice.  This is how we solve “Rape Culture” and “The objectification of Women” and “The patriarchy” and “The wage gape” and almost every other evil out there in the world, well at least the gender ones.

What struck me most was that she does not talk much about men.  She treats men exactly the way men treat women when giving advice.  She is not talking TO men, so she doesn’t bother to talk about men.  She does not identify men as the problem.  She is talking to women, and telling women what they need to hear not what they want to hear.

It’s not the world getting in your way; it’s you.

and

You need to make shit happen. Here’s how: You need to take more risks. And you need to get rejected.

This isn’t the sexist, be pretty for your man advice.  It’s not the feminist, “It’s all his fault” advice.  This is just good sound advice that is applicable to men or women, but it is targeted at women.

This is very much the advice we as a society should be giving women.  “Get rejected”, “Ask Dudes out”, “How you present yourself does matter”, “PDA is good” Read the blog, take it to heart.  Understand that this is how we will make a better and less sexist future, not “Rape Culture”.

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