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I don’t want to dedicate this blog to hateful bigoted and sexist versions of the very definition of “Rape Culture” I’m going to make this my last post on what Rape Culture is.

I still need to break this down into sentence fragments, but I will be much more brief.

 In a rape culture, women

Still continuing with “Rape Culture” being gendered and directional, not in practice, but by definition.

women perceive a continuum of threatened violence

Full stop. WHAT!?! Is rape culture about rape or the perceived threat of rape? Rape and the Perception of Rape are two very different issues, but closely related. Rape and the perceived threat of rape have an inverse relationship. If the goal is to reduce incidents of actual rape, then we need to increase the perceived threat of rape. If the goal is to reduce the perceived threat of rape, the lower vigilance against rape will increase actual incidents of rape. You can’t have your cake and eat it too. Increase the perception of threat or increase the actual threat. It is not possible to reduce both.

 threatened violence that ranges from sexual remarks to sexual touching to rape itself

I’m not sure if this is sexist, or just very very stupid. Sexual remarks are a threat of violence from men against women? Sexuality is somehow inherently violent? Maybe it’s a self fulfilling proficy that the definition is forcing to come true “and sexuality as violent.” This interpretation, that even comments of a sexual nature are a real threat of violence communicated by men to women is by far the most bigoted, sexists, hateful aspect of the definition.

It maybe just really stupid. If women really are perceiving sexual remarks as threats of violence, we need to fix the perceptions, not the remarks. It’s not men that are wrong for making the comments. It’s not the comments themselves that are threatening. It’s women’s hyper inflated reaction that’s the real problem. It is the PERCEPTION that needs to change, not the act. This really does not fit with the misandirc bigotry of the rest of the definition, but I will allow it as a possibility.

This is the part that is truly harmful as well. It is the perception, not the action that is threatened violence. I can not, and should not, control perception. I have no way of determining if the stranger will perceive “The sky is Blue” as sexual and therefor threatening violence. The only option I have to not feed rape culture is to NEVER speak to or touch any woman that I don’t already know well. You get to know people by talking to them, so this very quickly and directly turns into never speak to women. I’m not going to spend time in a place where I’m not allowed to speak with half the people there, just to protect women. I’m going to find something else to do. This means that good men that don’t want to feed rape culture leave. If you really want to solve the problem of rape, excluding the non-rapists from interactions with women is very much the wrong direction to go.

 A rape culture condones physical and emotional terrorism against women as the norm.

Wow, a full sentence to make bigotry. Lets see, defined as gendered. Yes. Defined as directional. Yes. So, it’s bigotry. Now the fragment “condones physical and emotional terrorism”. Well that would be a horrible place to live. Good thing it does not exist anywhere. Not even the most backwards and sexist places condones terrorizing women. While there are places that place unreasonable burdens of protection and decorum on women, it is not terrorism. The intent is clear. It’s fundamental. The intent is not even controversial. The intent is to protect women, not harm or scare them. These places do need to catch up with the modern world. Women shouldn’t be required to wear a burka or be escorted by males. Women, if allowed, are productive and capable members of society. While backwards and sexist, it’s not emotional or physical terrorism.

On to paragraph two of the definition. We are past the bigotry now, but we still have stupidity. This is worth addressing.

 In a rape culture both men and women assume that sexual violence is a fact of life, inevitable as death or taxes.

We assume it’s a fact of life because it is. This does not make it a good thing. It does not mean that we should do nothing. It does mean that total eradication of everything “Rape” is simply not possible. Rape is a fact of life, just like illness. We fight illness, as we should. No one ever gets sick again is such a pie in sky day dream that not even sci-fi movies pose it as a possibility. Rape is very much like an illness. We should treat the symptoms. We should also identify risk factors, and reduce them. There is also the underlying infection that needs to be treated. We should do all of this knowing full well that we can never “Win”. We shouldn’t even try to win. The only way to insure that no one ever gets sick or raped again would be to kill everyone right now.

 This violence, however, is neither biologically nor divinely ordained.

It is biologically “ordained”. People are people. Some people are broken sickos that need to be locked up or murdered for the good of everyone else. Sex is a basic animal instinct that we all have. If a person is born to stupid to recognize “no means no” they will rape, even if everything else in the entirety of everything is not “Rape culture”. Some people, sociopaths, are born plenty smart enough to know “no means no”, but just don’t care. Sometimes there are miscommunications that are “rape”. Sometimes the accusation of rape is the miscommunication. In short. Bad things happen. We are sexual beings, so the bad things will include sex.

 Much of what we accept as inevitable is in fact the expression of values and attitudes that can change.

Wow, a full sentence that I agree with. I probably don’t agree with the authors intent, but the words are just fine. There is a great deal of what “is” that is not fact, but values and attitudes that can change. I say the problem is not how feminists describe it. Men objectifying women is not really an issue. Women presenting themselves as objects is. This is an expression of values and attitudes that can change and if that change, when that change happens it will be great for both men and women.

 A rape culture is a complex of beliefs that encourages male sexual aggression and supports violence against women. It is a society where violence is seen as sexy and sexuality as violent. In a rape culture, women perceive a continuum of threatened violence that ranges from sexual remarks to sexual touching to rape itself. A rape culture condones physical and emotional terrorism against women as the norm.

In a rape culture both men and women assume that sexual violence is a fact of life, inevitable as death or taxes. This violence, however, is neither biologically nor divinely ordained. Much of what we accept as inevitable is in fact the expression of values and attitudes that can change.

This definition of “Rape Culture” is raw sewage marinated in hate bigotry and sexism. It is every bit as impotent to make good change as the first definition I discussed. It still is a description, not a prediction. It is still an always true super vague statement. It is worthless plus misandry sexism bigotry hatred and filth.

If you want to fight against “Rape Culture” and use the term.  Slathering the definition with sexism will only win you extremist feminists as friends.  If you want to talk about rape culture use a better definition, one that’s not sexist bigoted or hateful.  You need a definition that is not defining the issue as gendered or directional.  You need a definition that doesn’t objectify women or demonize men.  You need a definition that does not define sexuality as violent.  You don’t need to come up with this definition on your own.  It’s already been done.

a set of socially accepted beliefs, behaviors, and attitudes which contribute to the trivialization of a survivor’s experience, make light of sexually violent behavior, and perpetuate the negative effects suffered by both individuals and communities as a result. [1]

I still won’t agree that it’s useful.  I do not think that it’s good.  I think it will make the problem worse.  It is not hate sexism or bigotry.  If you think otherwise, that is worth talking about.